The truth about what is hard and what isn’t: diet vs exercise

I saw a meme on the Book of Faces this week that resonated with me because so many people see exercise as the panacea for losing weight.

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They are different kinds of hard, but one of them really is about getting past discomfort and creating a habit while the other requires introspection, a change in our perception of what food is, and analyzing our relationship with food. Then, you need to do planning and a lot of work to prepare for the week if you’re going to succeed. Yes, preparing meals and sticking to a meal plan is harder than exercise.

I am fortunate that my awesome wife Sherry diligently prepares our food every Sunday. It’s at great cost not financially, but emotionally and in time. She typically gives up, at a minimum, half of her Sunday to make our food. There have been Sunday Prep Days that have lasted all day. I try to help out where I can, but more often than not, she has things so tightly choreographed that me “helping” gets in her way and causes her to make mistakes. I try to be as supportive as I can in every way because she is, after all, making my meals for an entire week in one day.

Starting running was easy in comparison. All I needed to do was put on some shorts and running shoes and get out there. Any physical discomfort I felt was temporary, and as long as I was careful, I was able to avoid over-exertion and injury. Creating the habit to run every other day wasn’t easy, but it wasn’t nearly as hard as giving up an entire day a week to make healthy foods.

With that said, I haven’t talked about the most difficult part of the food prep: eating well. One of the reasons we do food prep is not only to save time during the week, but to have healthy options available that spent time and money to prepare to dissuade us from eating out or eating bad foods. The cost is considerable in food prep, both financially and in time. We are less likely to leave already prepared food in the refrigerator when we know that it already cost us money and time to make.

Eating well requires discipline. Lots of it for some people. For stress eaters, it can be especially difficult. There are volumes written about strategies one can employ to curb hunger, so I won’t go into that here and now (perhaps a later blog post about my own strategies). I was an emotional eater, and also someone who ate because I used it as a form of entertainment. I had to face down the reasons I ate too much and address them head-on. That was far more difficult than running has ever been.

You can’t exercise away a bad diet. Bad eating habits will inhibit any progress you could ever make through exercise. Do yourself a favor and eat right. Your body will reward you for it!

A Day Without Paleo: Our Day of Eating and Drinking Everything

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Sherry and I beginning our day of adventure and fun for our annual Valentine’s Month.

Yesterday was one of the days my wife and I took to celebrate Valentine’s Month. We don’t celebrate on the 14th; we use the month of February to do special, thoughtful things for each other that are out of the norm. We are usually quite thoughtful and nice to each other, but in February, we try to schedule activities that are treats. Yesterday was one such occasion.

We started the day with the Bluebonnet Wine Trail. It’s an event that pairs wines with chocolate and takes place between seven wineries North of Houston. We had a fantastic time visiting wineries and sampling their wines. The desserts they paired the wines with were really good and full of chocolate and sugar. We even had a smores pizza!

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Smores pizza. It was actually very tasty!

Afterward, I surprised Sherry with a painting class at Pinot’s Palette. We drank a bottle of port we bought earlier in the day on the win trail and painted a neat Valentine’s themed painting. Sherry’s turned out better than mine, but it was a lot of fun. We really enjoyed it.

We ended the day with some pizza. Not Paleo pizza, but regular thin crust pizza with Italian sausage, onions, mushroom, and green pepper. We ordered a small and I had three slices while Sherry had two. It was pretty delicious, but honestly, I found that it wasn’t nearly as amazing as my mind had made it out to be these past 15 months.

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Pizza. This was the piece neither of us could eat because we were full.

The next day, the scale reported a gain of 3 lbs, but I know that it’s mostly just water weight and it’ll go away this week. My stomach was a little unhappy about the bad food, but now the afternoon afterward, I’m feeling better. Sherry mentioned that she’s actually glad to be back to eating our healthy foods, and I couldn’t agree more.

While it was nice to have all those treats in one day, I can gladly wait another 15 months before we do this again. It was good, but not nearly as awesome as some of the things we eat normally that are actually healthy and good for us.

Fitness/Slim Shaming? Yes, it’s a thing

I’ve had three people either try to run me over or inconvenience me in some way while I ran in my neighborhood one evening last week. I couldn’t really tell if they were all doing it on purpose, but in at least one case, someone in their car literally pulled it forward as I was running on the sidewalk at night so I had to run into the street, and after I passed them, they pulled back up and kept the sidewalk clear. They stared me down the whole time. That was pretty blatant and uncalled for. The others? Maybe they didn’t see me or maybe there was no malice behind their actions.

At least once a week, I experience some sort of weird action or look from people as I run by. I normally get waves, smiles, and kids running next to me for 10 yards or so. Those are the nice interactions. Then there are the others. The looks I get from people who possibly think that the only reason I’m out running is to make them feel bad that they aren’t. Because of course, I only do this to make people feel badly about themselves.

I’ve had diesel pickup trucks “Smoke” me as they drive past, and people on sidewalks give me dirty looks. I’ve had people stop what they were doing and watch me as if I were some sort of oddity or criminal running past.

I find it sad, really. When I was my most outspoken about not liking exercise, I never went out of my way to inconvenience those who were exercising. Heck, I always gave runners and cyclists thumbs-up. They’re doing the work, and I always recognized that. Even if I didn’t want to do it, and even if it was a reminder to me of my own lack of motivation to get moving, I never put that on them. I put that on myself.

Trust me: I’m not out there flaunting my fitness. To do so would be a joke; I’m not that fast of a runner, nor am I in perfect shape. I’m in good shape, but I have a long way to go before I would say that I’m really fit. What I’m doing is the work necessary to get fit. I’m doing this for me, not to make anyone else feel bad for any reason.

I also hear people every once in a while make comments about me at the mall or in a store. “Well, doesn’t that skinny guy think he’s special wearing a suit jacket?” “Who does that skinny guy think he is, all dressed fancy and stuff?” “That guy needs to eat a sandwich.” Okay, the last one made me laugh when it happened (and actually, I’m laughing now) because I’m really not thin. Not even a little bit. I’m still just average. But really? Because I’m no longer fat and dress nicely it’s okay to be rude?

I expected fat shaming and being made fun of when I was heavy. I never expected it for being fit or working on getting fit. That surprised me.

Exercise Not Required: Lose 100+ lbs for FREE!

This is not a joke, nor is it unbelievable. It’s not unattainable. It’s not fiction. It’s not fantasy. It’s not a joke. It’s not click-bait (okay, so it kinda was, but it’s because people don’t really believe it, so they click to find out what the catch is). The truth is that you can totally lose weight without exercise. How do I know? Because not only have I done it, but I’ve personally watched dozens of people I know do it!

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Have they all lost 100 lbs? No, but not all of them need to lose that much. I did, because I was a huge, fat guy. Seriously, I was “Yo Momma Joke” fat. I stayed that way for a long time because I couldn’t fathom the amount of work necessary for me to lose weight. When I looked at calories burned through exercise versus the number of calories I was eating just to keep from being hungry, it looked like just a drop in the bucket. It looked that way, because that’s honestly what exercise is: a drop in the bucket, from a caloric viewpoint. It’s irrefutable that exercise is good for you, your heart, your muscles, bones, and even your mind. However, it’s not good for losing weight. Exercise alone will leave you with a very slow and tiring weight loss process. Diet, on the other hand, is where it’s at. Why? It attacks the source of obesity or being overweight: the food that goes into your body.

I am not talking calorie counting (which studies show doesn’t work well for everyone) or (and this one is laughable to me) moderation. People who say that moderation works have never had an eating disorder or an unhealthy relationship with food. Sure, in theory, moderation could work, and it should work. Heck, there are thin people I know who use moderation to control their weight. However, these people have never been FAT. I don’t mean 10-15 lbs overweight. I’m talking 100+ lbs FAT. I was. I know how hard it is to be that large and need to lose weight. I know the challenges, the hunger, the cravings, and the self-doubt that goes into needing to lose weight. What I didn’t know that just by changing what I eat, I could lose all the weight and get healthy. Nobody told me that. They all just said, “Exercise a lot and use moderation.” Please.

I see people posting online about how they exercised their weight off. About how they worked hard and got great results. Yet I know people personally who exercise every single day and work their tails off and are frustrated that they don’t see their efforts translated onto the scale. It’s because they were sold on the idea that exercise will give you weight loss. Sadly, it’s just not true.

Do you need to lose 10-15 lbs? You’re already near your ideal weight? Good! Exercise will go a long way in helping you reach your goal. Do you need to lose 100+ lbs? Then exercise alone won’t get you there anytime soon. What will is being careful with what you’re putting into your mouth.

I’m not saying starve. I didn’t. I’m not saying buy any products that promise weight loss. Heck, I’m not even touting, pushing, or selling a program you need to sign up and pay for. I advocate a healthy lifestyle by eating right that happen to have some free information available for that you can adopt today! Whole30 and Paleo are the method by which I changed my life and became healthy. They don’t pay me, and I don’t charge money for advice. I just believe in them, as they have been the key to my weight loss and amazing health. And yeah, I’m a runner now, too, so there’s that.

Product Review: Paleo by Maileo

I was contacted by Paleo by Maileo and asked to review their Paleo-themed monthly subscription box, and I gladly agreed. Being that my wife and I both are constantly on the lookout for new Paleo products, this offering was right up our alley! Yesterday, I received my box, and was greeted by a cute cartoon pig flying with a jet pack!

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Here’s a closeup of the logo. I think it’s cute!

 

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Opening the box, I found a huge bunch of full-sized Paleo snack options. These are not samples, but actual usable products that you would find in a store or online. This month’s box contained no fewer than eight products, each of which are items I’ve either bought or tried in the past (or had similar items).

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The first thing I tried was the PaleoKrunch Cinnamon. Wow! These are actually pretty out of this world, and it’s a good sized bag that could be kept at the desk for a week or two for the occasional snack when necessary. I really liked these as did Sherry.

I claimed the Heavenly Organics Pomegranate Chocolate Honey Patties for myself and I didn’t share. These were, well, for lack of a better word, heavenly. The chocolate is very dark and paired with the honey and pomegranate, an amazing treat. I could eat these anytime and they would put a smile on my face.

The RX Bars have long been a favorite in our household, and I have at least one in every backpack, day bag, and other small bags that I own. They are a great meal replacement in the event you can’t make a lunch or missed breakfast. They are also made with very simple and basic ingredients and is my go-to meal replacement.

My wife tried the Larabar as her dinner replacement last night since she worked late and missed her regular dinner, and she said it curbed her hunger and allowed her to go to sleep without feeling hungry. She has been a huge Larabar fan for a long time, so this one made her happy.

I’ve yet to try the rest: I didn’t want to eat it all in one setting!

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The cost for these boxes to be sent to you monthly is $37-$39 per month depending on how long you sign up for. Taking into account boxing, shipping, and the cost of the products themselves, that seems fair to me especially when you factor in the convenience and fun factor of getting introduced to new Paleo stuff monthly. Heck, Sherry and I went to Paleo|fx last year primarily to find Paleo products! You can do the same thing just by subscribing to Paleo by Maileo.

For those looking to be introduced to new Paleo products monthly (the contents of the box changes monthly) or for you old-hat Paleo people who just like getting an assortment of Paleo goodies sent to you monthly, this is a great option. There is nothing here that felt, looked, or tasted cheap or otherwise sub-par. The products are all well-known and high-quality.

Give them a try. I think you’ll find some really neat stuff using this service and you won’t have to scour the Internet to do it! Oh, and bonus: everything that comes in the box can then be bought through their own website which makes it easy for you to re-order items you found in your monthly box that you love.

Afternoon snacking: Good? Bad?

My wife swears by having snacks. She typically has some nuts in the afternoons to hold her over between lunch and dinner. As for me, I have adopted a no snack policy unless I’m really, really hungry. This is a hold-over from my early dieting days when I believed that the hungry feeling was a good thing, and that if my body was hungry, I was “Burning fat.” Of course, this is false, and is actually bad for us. Intermittent fasting is one thing: starving between meals is another.

What ends up happening when I get too hungry between meals is that when I do finally get a chance to eat, I tend to eat more than I otherwise would have. It takes longer for me to get that full stomach feeling, so I eat until that feeling comes and by then, I find I’ve eaten too much. Then comes the pain of having eaten too much food. My stomach doesn’t quite hold as much as it used to.

Does that mean I will stick to this no-snack policy? I don’t think so. I’m going to likely start bringing some nuts with me to have between lunch and dinner to try to reduce the hungry feeling I get. So far, I’ve increased the volume of the food I eat at lunch which has helped me stay sated until at least 4:30-5:00 p.m., and I can typically deal with an hour of slight hunger. It’s not uncomfortable, and when I run in the afternoons, I prefer to run on an empty stomach. Besides, if I am hungry when I start a run, that feeling quickly goes away as my heart rate goes up.

What about you. Do you snack in the afternoons? Late morning before lunch?

PaleoMarine’s Running Blog!

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I’ve decided to start a separate blog for my running. I feel that my running is a separate journey from Paleo. Yes, they are connected: Health and fitness go hand in hand. However, my post-run reports are a little more specific to running and more personal in nature, so it makes sense to segregate them.

The url for the new site is running.paleomarine.com. You can visit, subscribe, or ignore. Either way, that’s where my post-run reports will be going from now on. I’ll leave the post-run reports already posted here, but I’ve already migrated them over to the new site as well, so they are all there in one place. I will cross-post from my running blog when it’s applicable here as well.

Pervasive bad nutrition information is everywhere

You’ve probably heard one or all of these at some point (and heck, you may even believe it!):

  • Fat is bad for you.
  • Gluten is bad for you.
  • Milk is good for you. (It does a body good!)
  • Eggs are bad for you.
  • Orange juice is better for you than a soda.

How many of these have you heard? How many of these do you believe? What if I told you that each and every one of these statements is wrong? OK, I am telling you: each one of the statements above is false. But don’t believe me. Look it up.

Fat is bad for you. This is wrong because not all fat is bad for us. There are good fats to be found in:

  • Coconut, olive, and sesame oils
  • Avocados
  • Nuts (like almonds, pistachios and walnuts)
  • Fish (like salmon and sardines)

Unsaturated fats: Bad. Saturated fats: good. Here is how to tell the difference.

Gluten is bad for you. Unless you have Celiac disease, then gluten is not bad for you other than it is high in carbs. Carbs are the enemy, not gluten. According to WebMD, “Many people may just perceive that a gluten-free diet is healthier. In fact, it isn’t. For people with celiac disease, a gluten-free diet is essential. But for others, unless people are very careful, a gluten-free diet can lack vitamins, minerals, and fiber.”

Milk is good for you. Again, it is not. Just because a milk industry funded ad campaign said it was good for you doesn’t make it true. It just makes the ad campaign successful that you still believe it.

Eggs are bad for you. Another ad campaign lie. This ad campaign told us that eggs were bad for us and wanted us to buy egg substitutes. Eggs are actually the perfect food. The egg is called a perfect food for its health benefits and aiding in reducing your weight. Eggs are also complete in all amino acids (protein building blocks), which are found in the yolk. The fat in the egg yolk is in nearly perfect balance. These essential fats are very important in the regulation of cholesterol.

Orange juice is better for you than a soda. By volume, they contain the same amount of sugar (sometimes, OJ has even more sugar than a soda!). Just because it comes from a fruit doesn’t make it better. There are some orange juices that have less sugar than a soda, but juices overall are not a good choice to drink for anyone watching their weight, trying to lose weight, or at risk of developing Type 2 Diabetes.

Don’t believe every ad campaign you read, see, or hear. Do the research and find out for yourself. Oh, and don’t get me started on the food pyramid myth, or how we are supposed to eat a balanced diet from all the food groups. That’s been disproved time and time again.

 

Post-Run Report: February 1, 2017

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Today was an interesting run. I set out to take my time and have a comfortable run. I also set out to do over 4 miles, which I did. What surprised me was my pace: 9:34. This is within my happy range. I am able to consistently run within the 9:30’s, which is good for a comfortable slow run. When I kick it up, I can hit sub-9’s, which is my PRT goal (that’s what they call PFT’s in the Army/National Guard).

As for push ups, I did 70 and called it good. I could have knocked out the last 10, but I wasn’t feeling it. The day was long and a little stressful, so I felt I could use an easy workout day. Oddly, running 4.13 miles felt good, and the last mile was really very pleasant.

I’m getting the hang of this running thing more and more. I can’t say I love it when I start a run, but by the end of it, it’s actually pretty nice, and when I finish? Even better. It’s a great sense of accomplishment, and the stress or anxious feelings I’ve carried with me for the day all melt away. After a nice hot shower and then dinner, all is good with the world.

Really. I was a big guy. That’s not my brother.

At lunch today, I showed a new friend a picture of myself taken a year and a half ago. “That’s not you,” she said. “That’s your brother!” My friend Steve was with me, and he assured her that the big guy in the photo was, in fact, me. She just couldn’t believe it.

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People I’ve known for a long time say I’m brave for posting my before pictures here. They say I’m braver still (or crazy) for posting the photo above. They don’t understand why I do it, or why I’m not more modest about it. I post them because of a conversation with my good friend Kenny.

When I started my journey, I didn’t push it on anyone. I talked about it, but I tried to not talk about it too much. Then, after a while, I stopped making it a topic of conversation and just went about my daily routine of eating right. After a few months, Kenny noticed that I was making solid progress. Since I had dinner with him and his wife every Friday night, he also noticed I was able to eat food that was pretty much normal, albeit lacking in added sugar, carbs, grains, beans, or dairy. After I’d lost over 50 lbs, he asked me specifically about my diet and shortly thereafter, he and his wife went Paleo.

When another mutual friend of ours, Matt, asked Kenny why he hadn’t listened to his advice in the past (Matt has been advocating against added sugars and carbs for years), Kenny replied that it was because Matt has always been a thin person. Of course anything he said about nutrition was to be taken with a grain of salt because he didn’t have to overcome being overweight they way we did. When Kenny saw me lose all the weight without exercise and by eating normal foods, he was sold. My example led to his changing his lifestyle, and he has said as much on more than one occasion.

So that’s why I post those photos others would find embarrassing. Photos that more modest people could never fathom posting, I put up for display here. I do so because I want people to know that I have walked in their footsteps. I’ve been the heavy guy. The overweight guy. I’ve been the fat guy. It wasn’t easy or fun. But I found a way out of it, and I want to help others follow me to good health and if there’s a chance, even fitness.