Tough Love

My wife says my blog is “Tough love.” She’s even gone so far as to say I’m mean on my blog. Well, perhaps I am. Maybe I don’t sugarcoat things or find the most tactful ways to say it. Maybe it’s because I’ve lied to myself and fed myself so many excuses over the years that I’m fed up with being nice about weight loss, health, and eating right.

I got soft. I let myself go. I got fat.

I needed to get back to being the Fit Marine I used to be, so I had to use the tool set I was given by the Corps to get my head back into the game and get my health back in order. I needed to get back into fighting shape. What better way to do it than to adopt the mindset I had when going through USMC Boot Camp and any other training I went through afterward? It worked then, so maybe it would work now.

And work it did. And does.

My blog is harsh sometimes. It’s very in-your-face about getting rid of the fat, getting into shape, eating right, and getting healthy. I write mostly for me; I’m my own primary audience, I guess. I’m hoping that through this blog, I can help or inspire others to embark on the same journey I’m on to better health and lower weight. At the least, perhaps someone will read my blog, become incensed, and find another blog that is kinder and gentler to their sensibilities to help them attain their health and/or weight goals. However, anyone who sticks around here is going to get unfettered and unfiltered input, advice, and feedback about weight loss and eating better. The major upside: better health.

Marines are successful not because they carry big guns, but because they have a mindset that does not accept failure and always looks for avenues to succeed where most normal people would give up. I don’t expect every reader of my blog to be a Marine or have been a Marine, but I do hope that the readers accept responsibility for their condition and take the appropriate steps to reverse any damage done and to take back their health. It’s a mindset that succeeds, and that mindset has to be one of determination to get back into good health. Determination to not sabotage yourself. Determination to stick with it even when you see something you used to love to eat when you know you shouldn’t do it.

My wife made the comment to me last night that being on Paleo has not been as hard as she thought it would be, and that now, it’s actually quite normal and even pleasurable. The meals we eat are delicious, the variety of the food is great, and the foods we can no longer eat really aren’t missed. Those foods that she thought she couldn’t live without? Turns out she can, and she does.

So yes, I’m tough on myself, and in turn, to you, the reader of my blog. I am tough not because I want to turn you away or upset you, but because I care. I care about those who read this blog, and I think that by filtering or watering down my message does more a disservice than help. We’ve lied to ourselves long enough. We’ve tried being nice about our weight, our bad health, and our fat for too long. It’s time to get mad, get mean, and attack the problem at its core: the food we put into our faces, and in turn, into our bodies.

Eat right and the good health will follow.

6 thoughts on “Tough Love

  1. Holy screaming eagle shit! We are harder on ourselves then anyone else. That is what we were taught, and it still goes with what I think today, take responsibility for your own actions. .

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  2. I don’t seeing as being hard on us, your readers, you are talking, out loud. EJ, some of us need that kick in the ass, to get us off our ass or our heads out of our ass. I need that, I let myself go, let my life go. Getting healthy, means i might be around longer gor my children. No one to blame but myself. Good job keep it up.

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  3. A mutual friend has referred me to your blog due to a familiarity to your dilemma of weight control. I was 300 lbs. 18 months ago and have since kept off 65 lbs. and feel great. Currently I’m 54 years old, weighing in at 235 lbs., BMI of 32, normal blood parameters across the board plus I have exercise regimen that makes me feel like an athlete again.

    The weight loss stemmed from my doctor stating “if you don’t loose some weight real soon you are going to be diabetic within the year”. That was my wakeup call to do something about my health. I thought about my loved ones and the possibility of them attending my funeral in the near future. Diabetes runs in my family and I’ve heard all the horror stories from past relatives. That day I went out and bought a cycle that would be capable of riding dirt roads as well as road. My example of good health came from my 65 year old brother-in-law who averages a phenomenal 8000 miles on a road bike every year. I started riding my bike everyday, even in the winter. I bought a stationary trainer and rode inside during snow storms in Mid-Michigan. I distracted my pain by listening to loud rock and roll music that had the appropriate cadence to keep my heart rate at a calorie burning furnace level. It got better with time, I began to ride for an hour on the trainer. Soon it was time to make the transition to the outdoors and actually ride on the open road. Nobody likes change but, it soon became a routine to have my riding gear waiting for me at the door in order to get a jump on the setting sun with an evening ride. I began to ride longer distances that was quite impressive to my friends and relatives. I transitions into a completely different person is so many different ways. I felt strong, confident, in control of by body. Women began to compliment me out of the blue in very insignificant places (ie checkout counters, post office and the ever persistent grocery store.

    I have since purchased another bike, a road bike that will fly down the road. I enjoy the competition of riding and often exceed the expectations of 30 and 40 year olds who ride with me. I love beating them into the ground if I can!

    That’s my story, I hope it helps you with your journey. I never was in the military but I did consider myself to be an above average athlete in my younger years. My story is a prime example of what the human spirit is capable of doing if that is what you want. I suggest you go out and buy yourself a bike and start riding.

    Sincerely, Harold


    1. Thanks for your inspiring story, Harold! I do have a bike, and I have plans to start riding it again soon. I used to love riding when I was younger. I hope to have updates with my bicycle soon!


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