Can harsh words help someone get healthy?

This is a good question. We all respond differently to not only the messages we are sent, but the method by which those messages are sent. Some people just don’t like being told the truth in a concise and clear way while others abhor being coddled and having things sugarcoated. I am the former; I like my information straight and to the point. That’s why I present it that way; no coddling or sugarcoating.

I read a quote today that said something like, “Rarely are harsh words helpful.” I disagree. I vehemently disagree. Some people only respond to harsh words. My son, as a little boy, shut down anytime I raised my voice or yelled at him. As a parent, one of the non-violent ways to get through to a kid is through a booming voice, only my son would literally just shut down.  I had to present information to him gently so he could absorb it. My daughter, on the other hand, only learned through the booming voice. My grandmother taught me that kids are all very different, and it takes different methods to get through to each. You need to find out what their method is and stick to it. Adults are no different.

If you don’t like straight talk and concise language, then this site is not for you. If you, like me, respond well to direct, clear, and brutally honest information, then welcome! Please look around, browse some blog entries, and enjoy!

Sure, some of what I have to say is not very politically correct. I use the word fat a lot instead of its more friendly euphemism overweight. If we can’t call ourselves out for what we are, then we have little chance of fixing ourselves.

I wish people would have been more blunt with me in the past. Would it have hurt my feelings? The Hungarians say that behind every joke or harsh word is a grain of truth. Well, by calling me fat, it would have been more than a grain of truth; more like a heaping truckload. It was’t until my cousin, a PA, flat out told me that I was going to die soon if I didn’t change my health. She didn’t sugarcoat things, and she laid it all out for me on main street. It changed my life. Had she not done that, there’s a good chance I would either still be very fat today, or dead.

There is a time and place for being politically correct, and a time to tell it like it is. If you are overweight and unhealthy, the time for being nice is done. It’s time for you to get with it, lose the weight, get healthy, and save your life.

2 thoughts on “Can harsh words help someone get healthy?

  1. Great article. It depends on who the harsh words are coming from. If from someone is saying it to help you be healthier and can pump me up, I can take it. But I find, when fat, like now again, if someone makes a comment about me eating or just sitting around, then I take it personally and usually end up crying inside and it has a reverse affect on me. I am going through the change and my body is all jacked up and weight just happens and I feel miserably in my own skin. We just don’t know what others are going through and it is best to have a supportive approach to it.

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    1. I get that. That’s why I mentioned how different my kids are. I couldn’t take one approach with the other because I would do more harm than good. It’s good to know your audience and who you are talking to. There’s also time and place and circumstance. With what you’re going through, it’s definitely important to be tactful and supportive. For me? Yell at me and remind me that I’m soft. I need it. 🙂


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