Can your spouse make you get healthy?
Can your children or grandchildren make you get healthy?
Can your friends, gym coach, co-workers, or anyone else make you get healthy?
Maybe they can motivate you, support you, or assist with meal prep, but ultimately, none of them can make you get healthy. Only YOU can do that.
You are the beginning, the middle, and the end of your healthy journey. Only you make the final decisions for the food that goes into your body and the amount of physical activity you can get. (Protip: you don’t need exercise to lose weight. You only need that to get fit). You can get all the positive reinforcement in the world and still get nowhere. You can have a great support team and still get nowhere.
Because YOU are the most important link in the chain of attaining your goals and success.
This all sounds kind of obvious, right? If it does, it’s because it is. The work towards being healthy begins and ends with you. You have to do the work. You have to make the decisions on your food. You have to put on those gym shoes and get out there and actually run.
It’s not easy.
Well, the process itself is easy. Calories – effort/used calories = calorie deficit aka weight loss. Also, effort + time = increased fitness. However, the hard part is getting past the hump of, “I don’t feel like it.” That’s the most difficult part of the entire process. Coming in a close second is getting past, “I’m still sore from yesterday’s workout. I’ll just skip today.”
Excuses are easy. Everyone has them. Getting over the hump is the hard part, and it’s why people admire those who succeed. Successful teacher, successful nurse, successful doctor, successful engineer, successful professional sports athlete, military NCO’s and senior officers, professional musician, artists, and the list goes on. These are all people who had to put in a lot of time, effort, and sacrifice to make it to the elite. None of these people were given their status. They all earned it.
I have lost 150 lbs total. I gained back 20 here and there and went on to lose that last 20 again a few times. I’m currently on another Whole30 working towards undoing some of the damage I’ve done over the past year. I’ve increased my physical activity to prepare for Warrant Officer Candidate School in the Army. There are many days where I just want a cookie, or I want to skip a workout, but I don’t let that happen. I drop those thoughts as soon as I have them. Why? Because I have goals I feel more strongly about than any short-term gratification of a cookie or a skipped workout. If anything, the guilt and disappointment in myself is far greater if I were to eat the cookie or skip the workout that it’s not worth it to me. I would rather feel discomfort in muscle pain than the emotional discomfort I always get after a skipped workout.
Ultimately, reaching my goals is MY responsibility. Sure, some can help get me there, but at the end of the day, it’s my accomplishment because I’m the one who pushed past the little voice that suggests cheats or skips. I keep reminding myself that those are the voice of sabotage, and that little voice can go to hell; I’ve got things to accomplish and goals to reach.