How to motivate a spouse?

I’ve been asked a few times this weekend about motivating spouses to get healthy. That’s a tough question to answer, because everyone is different, and they have different motivations. I can only talk about what helped me convince my wife to join me in my journey to get healthy.

First, I told her that my health was at jeopardy, and that I needed her help to get healthy. I could not do it alone. Without her being in on this with me, I was doomed to fail, and ultimately, doomed to a shorter life.

Second, I was able to show her the many recipes for Whole30 and Paleo there were that looked absolutely amazing and delicious. That was a huge thing for her; she was’t going to suffer through another chicken breast and salad diet. The food she was going to eat had to be varied, satisfying, and delicious.

Third, I told her that I wanted her to be healthy with me. I wanted us to be able to do fun things together, to enjoy life to the fullest, to have new and varied adventures together! Without her being able to do the fun stuff, there was no reason for me to do it.

Finally, I told her that if she didn’t do it, then I would surely die sooner, and that would mean she would live long after I was gone. I know that was playing dirty, but I pulled out all the stops.

It worked. Over two years later, we are still keeping the weight off, still eating healthy, and still loving our lives. We are more fulfilled and happier, not because we’re thinner, but because we feel fewer physical limitations on us. That alone made it all worthwhile.

Oh yeah; and we’re far healthier now. Bonus.

2 thoughts on “How to motivate a spouse?

  1. I share somee similarities with your experience Paleo. I too have found that looking for support from my loved ones has helped me to find success this time. However I have not managed to convince my parents to do the same. I will keep chipping away at this but find that denial is a huge issue and by agreeing to try to change something is in its self an admission that something was wrong with what they were/are doing. I keep sharing my experiences in the hope to set alite their motivation, but have been unsuccessful so far – but will keep trying at a distance

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    1. We have experienced the same with a family member as well. They refuse to change their own diet despite seeing the successes we’ve had and then bemoan their lack of progress in losing any weight. The best you can do is just be the example and hope they see the light before it’s too late.


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