My wife swears by having snacks. She typically has some nuts in the afternoons to hold her over between lunch and dinner. As for me, I have adopted a no snack policy unless I’m really, really hungry. This is a hold-over from my early dieting days when I believed that the hungry feeling was a good thing, and that if my body was hungry, I was “Burning fat.” Of course, this is false, and is actually bad for us. Intermittent fasting is one thing: starving between meals is another.
What ends up happening when I get too hungry between meals is that when I do finally get a chance to eat, I tend to eat more than I otherwise would have. It takes longer for me to get that full stomach feeling, so I eat until that feeling comes and by then, I find I’ve eaten too much. Then comes the pain of having eaten too much food. My stomach doesn’t quite hold as much as it used to.
Does that mean I will stick to this no-snack policy? I don’t think so. I’m going to likely start bringing some nuts with me to have between lunch and dinner to try to reduce the hungry feeling I get. So far, I’ve increased the volume of the food I eat at lunch which has helped me stay sated until at least 4:30-5:00 p.m., and I can typically deal with an hour of slight hunger. It’s not uncomfortable, and when I run in the afternoons, I prefer to run on an empty stomach. Besides, if I am hungry when I start a run, that feeling quickly goes away as my heart rate goes up.
What about you. Do you snack in the afternoons? Late morning before lunch?
I tried to count calories to lose weight. It didn’t work for me. Why? Because without understanding the differences between good and bad calories and satiety, I would often still feel hungry after a meal. On its most basic level, nutrition is easy: eat fewer calories than you expend in a day to create a deficit which, in turn, will yield weight loss. Seems simple, right? Well, there’s more to it than that.
Satiety: the quality or state of being fed or gratified. This is a word many people don’t know, understand, or consider. It turns out that it’s one of the most important keys to losing weight effectively. If you eat 500 calories at a meal but don’t feel full, you’ll be miserable at best and unless you have really great willpower, you’ll succumb to the cravings and eat more. On the other hand, if you eat 500 calories that fill you up, you will be less inclined to snack or over-eat and will be able to make it to the next regular meal without any discomfort.
That’s a huge key for many people: comfort. Nobody wants to starve. It’s hard-wired into our brains to avoid starving. It’s uncomfortable at best, and downright horrible. I’ve had to go days without food before, and I can tell you, I never want to experience that again. As an overweight person, going for too long without food was very uncomfortable. Heck, I’d find myself hungry a few hours after a meal and would snack to make that bad feeling go away. Many overweight people who want to lose weight fail because they can’t deal with that hungry feeling. That’s because the food they eat are hyper-nutritious but low in satiety. These are foods like pizza, hamburgers, Taco Bell, etc. You have to eat a lot to feel full, but then you took in 2-3 days worth of calories.
The main factor in our success in being able to stick with Whole30 and Paleo has been satiety. Every meal we eat is very high in satiety which in turn not only fills us up but keeps us from getting hungry again too soon. It makes meals satisfying in a way that doesn’t make you feel bloated or stuffed. It energizes you instead of drags you down.
Some people succeed with counting calories. A good friend of mine lost a lot of weight this way, but it is not sustainable. They gained the weight back (and then some). I am not one of those people either; counting calories always ended in failure for me. Like an idiot, I tried time and time again and found short-term success only to have it return with an addition 10-15 lbs each time. It wasn’t until I addressed the reasons I ate too much coupled with learning to eat good foods high in satiety did I find success.
Pecan crusted Paleo Salmon with Paleo Coleslaw and cauliflower with onion.
So, you’re either contemplating a new, healthy lifestyle or you are already trying to eat better but you’re finding your options lacking variety and flavor. This is a common problem for people new to Paleo, and especially for those who are either in or coming from a Whole30. A friend of mine was once on a rather restrictive diet that left him eating salad and chicken breast for nearly every meal. He said there were other options available to him, but they were either too complicated or difficult to make in a reasonable amount of time which led him to the excessively bland and repetitive diet. Eventually, he quit eating that way and went back to his old eating habits and gaining back the weight he lost.
This is more common than you would think, and was the primary concern of my wife Sherry when we first discussed changing our eating habits to be healthy. She did a lot of research before we started, and yet we still found our food to be a little on the bland side compared to what we were used to eating. This was due to a few reasons.
We were going from a diet that was heavy in sugar and other fillers. These are full of flavor and, while not good for us, are quite delicious. Do you ever wonder why there’s sugar in savory foods? It’s because we love it!
Our bodies hadn’t adjusted to the reduced sugar in the food which made them taste more bland than they really were.
We were used to foods with lots of spices. Many recipes go easy on spices.
The first month or so of cooking when adhering to our first Whole30 was a rather bland, although not entirely unpleasant experience. As Sherry learned the flavors and our mouths were freed from the sugar influence and addiction, we were rewarded with being able to taste more subtle flavors we had never noticed before. Foods we used to eat and were not impressed with before our Whole30 took on new favor. I used to tolerate sweet potatoes. After starting my Whole30, I began to really appreciate them. Now, I love them!
Another thing that happened is Sherry began to learn how to use the new ingredients properly, the ratios and amounts to use, and this applied to the spices as well. While using the same spices, using them in conjunction with new ingredients came with a learning curve. Fortunately for us, she’s overcome that curve, and I can say honestly that the foods she makes for us now are flavor-filled and delicious! We are not wanting for more flavorful foods.
Of course, it’s been fifteen months of clean eating that have led us to where we are today. Foods that taste sweet to Sherry and I are still probably semi-sweet to those who still eat sugar-added or pre-processed foods regularly. I cannot drink a soda anymore: it is literally so sweet as to make me nauseous. No, this is not a bad thing. It keeps me from ever wanting another Coke again, and I see that as a good thing for my health and longevity.
As for meals, I look forward to them not only because they fuel my body, but because they are delicious. A large part of the human experience lies in the food we eat, and most people feel that it’s not worth living if the food is bland and terrible and I agree! That’s why I’m so happy Sherry has found such amazing recipes and has learned to cook so well with them.
To find success in adopting a healthy lifestyle, you have to find success in the kitchen. Fortunately, we have the Internet and sites like my wife’s that has many great recipes to choose from. Don’t shy away from experimentation with spices, too. It’s amazing how much a little bit of spice can transform an otherwise bland dish.
Once again, someone told me today, “I love Paleo, but I can’t afford it.” I asked them what they were buying, and they said, “Well, all the organic, free-range stuff is so expensive!” I asked them about buying the non-organic stuff and just cooking them as Paleo, and they reacted as if I were speaking Martian to them.
Yes. You can do this. It’s allowed.
Is it better for you to eat the “Good” stuff? Of course it is. But why go completely off-plan and back to a diet that you know is not good for you just because you can’t afford the more expensive organic or free-range foods? All the recipes that Sherry and I post are just as doable with the non-organic foods as they are with organic.
Yes, adopting a Paleo lifestyle can be expensive, but it’s getting better. More and more places (like Kroger, Sam’s Club, Costco, and H*E*B to name a few) are all carrying more and more Paleo friendly or even Paleo-focused foods for good prices. The prices are even dropping month-over-month, and going Paleo is getting more and more affordable.
Don’t let cost convince you to look elsewhere. You can do this on the cheap. Sure, you have to use some ingredients that aren’t as great for you as they would be if you could get the organic, free-range, no hormone or anti-biotic versions, but at least you will be cutting out grains, beans, dairy, and foods with added-sugar and soy. The benefits are overwhelming.
On Sunday, my wife and I went to H*E*B (a supermarket chain here in Texas) to buy a specific coffee blend that I enjoy (Houston Blend, btw; it’s AMAZING and has coconut in the grounds!) and to shop for our week’s worth of food. We went in without a plan and decided to shop the sales. It turned out to be a lot of fun and hugely successful!
We found lobster tails on sale for $4.97 each, so we bought four for lunch. I grilled them with an Italian herb mix and butter on our grill and they were delicious beyond description. It’s become our new favorite way to eat lobster tail, and frankly, any other way they are prepared now falls short for us.
Wild-caught salmon was also on sale, so we bought a few filets. One for smoking to be used in omelettes over the course of the week and another for use as dinner to be baked in the oven.
Free-range organic chicken was also available at a good price, so we bought some to be used in an as-yet undecided grilled chicken dish. I suggested doing it as some sort of Mexican-inspired dish, perhaps marinading the chicken in some sort of lime juice and then grilling it and serving it with an avocado relish. We’ll see if that’s how we make it, or if it will be prepared some other way.
The only planned meal this week is chili. I love chili (as my grandmother always recalled) and can eat it for every meal without issue. Sherry has come upon a great recipe of her own that was inspired by some chili recipes she found online that I really enjoy and have decided is the best I’ve had. The fact that it’s 100% Paleo is icing on the cake.
Coming up with a plan can be fun. It doesn’t have to be drudgery. The best part: we’re both looking forward to these impromptu dishes that we will be having this week. They are rather exotic, but we got everything for great prices, so that makes it even better! Paleo doesn’t have to be expensive. You can come up with some great meals on the cheap if you just allow yourself to think outside the box and do some of your planning on-the-go as the deals present themselves!
I get this all the time; “I’m sorry I’m eating cookies in front of you.” Don’t be sorry! Eat your food the way you want to! I won’t judge you!
I also get told by people who normally eat Paleo, “I don’t normally eat this, but I am going to just this once.” It’s okay. Eat what you want. It doesn’t offend me, and I won’t think any less of you for eating what you are eating.
I’ve heard, “I feel sorry for you because you can’t have any of this cake or ice cream.” Again, it’s okay for you to eat what you want, and by all means, don’t feel sorry for me. Enjoy your food! I enjoy mine!
One of my favorites:Â “Well, I’m going to eat this anyway even though you think it’s bad for you.” Don’t let my presence pressure you into not eating something you would otherwise eat. I make my food decisions just as you make your own. Just because I think it’s bad for me doesn’t make it bad for you. That’s a decision for you to make for yourself.
I’m not missing anything by not having regular cake and ice cream. I’m not missing out at all, in fact, because I do have cake and ice cream and cookies and many other goodies. Only, I have them very rarely, and even when I do, they’re Paleo. I will make the occasional exception for a birthday cake or holiday celebration, but normally I’ll just say, “No thanks.”
I am an advocate for Paleo and for Whole30, and it seems I’ve become an advocate for running as well. I am not, however, someone who will guilt or shame anyone else for not eating Paleo or running. Those are very personal decisions and it’s not my place to impose my decisions on anyone else. If I’m asked, however, I will give you my opinion and the best pitch I can for you to eat well and get some exercise. That, I can promise.
I want to preface this post by saying that many of the foods here have Paleo alternatives that are very good. In many cases, they taste as good, or even in some cases, better than the original. However, there’s just something about the foods on my list below that I miss. I know it’s the sugar or the grains… either way, while I love my Paleo food, there are only a few foods that I no longer eat that I used to enjoy immensely. Fortunately, it’s a short list.
The best hot dogs in the universe: Portillo’s.
Chicago Style Hot Dogs. There are no alternatives, and nothing to replace this gaping hole in my culinary heart. This has been the hardest pill for me to swallow since going Paleo.
A spaghetti dish I made from scratch in 2013. It’s steaming hot in this picture.
Real Pasta Spaghetti. This is one of the big ones for me. I love pasta. LOVE it. I am part Italian, and this part of me must be manifested by my love of pasta. I used to eat it at least once or twice a week. At one point in my life, I ate spaghetti as much as five times a week. This was back when I was in the Marines and running daily, so with that coupled with youth, I didn’t gain the weight. Now? My body is very efficient and storing everything from the spaghetti and making me fat. So, I avoid it. I haven’t had spaghetti in over a year. Sherry makes a really great spiralized zucchini that’s very close (or even spaghetti squash), but it’s not pasta.
Sushi at a dinner in San Francisco in 2012.
Sushi. We can eat the fish, but not the rice. We have made sushi using caulirice, and it’s  a really good approximation and very close, but it’s just not the same. I miss you, sushi rice in all your sticky goodness.
Me and my beloved In-n-Out Hamburgers in 2012.
Fast food hamburgers. We eat burgers from time to time with either a Paleo bun or with a lettuce wrap, but there’s nothing like an In-n-Out hamburger. Nothing. I love these, and I miss them. Living in Houston has helped me keep from giving into the temptation of eating In-n-Out, but visits to Austin and Dallas have really tested my resolve. So far, I’ve won, but why do I feel like ultimately I’ve lost?
Pizza. I’ve had some Paleo pizzas that are really good, but nothing compares to a real pizza. I’m an equal opportunity pizza lover: thin crust, thick crust, Chicago style, New York style, or even Dominoes style. I just love pizza. I miss the real stuff, but at least there are Paleo versions that come close. Close.
Bread. There are some Paleo breads that are very good (the soda bread Sherry makes is, in my opinion, even tastier and better than the real deal!), but I love French bread. I love the fluffiness of the inside and the crunchiness of the crust. Paleo bread, while delicious, just doesn’t get all the way to perfection the way French bread does. Don’t even get me started on a bread that you cannot make in Paleo at all: Croissants.
Breakfast cereals/oatmeal/cream of wheat (farina). I’ve had some Paleo versions of these, but they have all been a bit of a disappointment. I am one of the rare people who loves oatmeal and absolutely adores cream of wheat, but Paleo versions, for me, don’t even come close. I have had to come to terms with never having these again.
BLT’s (and other sandwiches). I love a good BLT, especially on rye. Now, I can only dream of sandwiches, for the most part. At least I can have bacon. And lettuce. And tomatoes. Just not in a sandwich.
For every other type of food, there’s a very close analogue. So close, in fact, that it’s either hard to tell the difference, or Sherry and I have found the Paleo versions to be superior in flavor.
In the end, it’s about decisions that effect our health. I prefer to make decisions that are based on a long-term view. With the exception of the occasional holiday or special event, I eat only Paleo food, and I feel much better about it. Also, having lost over 110 lbs eating Paleo is a pretty good feeling, too.
This is a salmon dish Sherry made a while back. Delicious and filling!
I don’t count calories. I don’t watch my macros. I don’t weigh my food before I eat it. I just eat enough to feel full. Well, that is, I do now. I knew I was supposed to do that, and when Sherry and I started our first Whol30, it was one of the hardest things to get used to. I always thought I was overeating when in actuality, I was just eating what my body wanted. A year later, I found myself no longer losing weight despite my eating smaller meals. I thought that as I got smaller, my meals should get smaller, too, and that I was just doing what I was supposed to do to keep losing weight. Except I forgot one thing: my body knows how much food it needs better than I think it does.
Let me explain: I was sticking to 2 eggs and 2 slices of bacon for breakfast. I enjoy it, it tastes good, and it keeps me full until around 10 am. Then, I would start to get hungry. I eat lunch at 11 am and I would start feeling hungry again around 4 pm. Because I typically try to eat dinner with Sherry, that means no food until around 6-7 pm. That’s a long stretch to go without food, and all while being hungry!
The worst part is that my weight loss stopped around two months ago. I’ve been hovering at a low for months now despite my physical activity. Then it dawned on me as I was giving advice to someone who is adopting Paleo themselves: eat until you’re full. Of course, that doesn’t mean go hog wild, but eating slowly, your body will reach a point at which it tells you that its full, and then you should just stop eating. I was not doing this.
For the past two weeks, I’ve been eating more food. It felt weird at the beginning, to eat more food to lose weight, but it turned out I was right. I wasn’t eating enough. Now, I’m back to losing weight; two solid weeks of weight loss are now behind me. Of course, now that I weigh less, the number of pounds I lose is less, but as a percentage, it’s still about right: about 1% a week. I’ll take it!
Eat until you’re full. Don’t leave a meal hungry. If you are, you’re not doing it right, and you are setting yourself up for failure. If you stick to the good foods (meat, vegetables, some fruit), you will lose weight even after you eat until you are full. And notice I don’t say stuffed; just full. It requires some discipline (especially if you have overeating issues like I did) but it’s doable.
Sherry and me at the Texas Renaissance Festival in 2015 (L) and 2016 (R).
This weekend, my wife and I attended the Texas Renaissance Festival, as is our tradition every year since we met. This was our 14th visit to the festival together, and also as is our tradition, we did it in costume. Last year, we went in Scottish garb; I wore the Marine Corps tartan kilt with accouterments while Sherry made her dress from a pattern of a traditional Scottish dress. Needless to say, we’ve both lost a lot of weight since last year, so we both needed to make adjustments.
For me, I had to buy a new shirt (down from XL to M) and a new kilt (down from 44 to 32). Fortunately, the belts were adjustable and everything else fit properly, if not better (like the socks which were not stretched over my over-sized calves). Sherry had to do more work, as her dress was handmade. She expertly took in the shirt and the dress and they both looked amazing on her!
We had a great time with our good friends Kenny and Elaine. We even had some cider and ate some of the fair food which consisted of sausage, red cabbage, and sweet potato tots. We even split an order of potato pancakes which were delicious! With all the walking we did, we both did great on the scale the next morning; she lost a pound while I stayed exactly the same weight as I was on Friday.
Eating Paleo at a festival like this is pretty easy as a lot of the foods are pretty basic. Sure, there are burgers, hot dogs, quesadillas, etc that are definitely not Paleo, but there were more Paleo-friendly foods than not, which was a nice change.
It’s okay to go out and have fun on Paleo, or even on your Whole30. Just be smart and make good decisions. Neither Sherry nor I felt like we couldn’t enjoy the festival in any way. As a matter of fact, it’s one of the more Paleo-friendly venues to visit. We highly recommend it (and stay for the fireworks show, but get a seat early).